So is the ick permanent or temporary? I always thought that a sudden drop in attraction was a natural milestone for every new relationship that you can choose to end the relationship over or ride it out, and that if you ride it out attraction will return in time. (What Carrie Fisher referred to as The Sleeping Giant, the one who wakes up a few weeks or months into the relationship and starts picking apart everything your new love does or wears or says.)
One of my icks was my ex guttural yelling at a concert during mostly silent moments between songs; I felt it was attention-seeking and disruptive rather than a genuine expression of excitement. Wonder if that falls into the neoteny category?
Reading the sentence “I'm terrified by the notion that I could be liked by people and get further in life if I put in an absurd amount of effort into changing my habits,” gave me ick 😂
My husband didn't have any motor skills flaws. But I did! And now our son has them... he's autistic. It sucks that he'll be giving girls the ick but on the other hand he probably *shouldn't* have kids. I guess it's just evolutionary biology in action. We like to think humans are above that but we're not.
For me, “getting the ick” gives me the ick. People who silently judge and rank people based on tiny human foibles while not realizing they themselves are ALSO human and have foibles and bad breath and probably a disgusting/disconcerting habit or two. But do I sit and stew and report them online to the judgy bitch police to feel better about myself, superior to the obvious icko? No. Because I’m a goddamned adult. Not a mean girl from the 2000s.
Proactiveness, taking responsibility, thoughtfulness, cleanliness (at least not rotmaxxing, the bar is in hell nowadays).. this isn't just the ability to be kind or "a heckin decent human being." It's something only a select few people are consciously aware of that care about this. The rest are shallow women that have convinced themselves never to have confidence while ironically acting as if their life revolves around girlbossing instead of natural evolutionary impulses.
Leftwing psychology never fails to amaze me. "Follow evolutionary theory, oh but wait, also, ignore that! It's all a construct!"
Just choose a lane and choose something to believe in.. just commit to something! This is why many marriages fall apart, they don't actually love each other nor have the will to commit.
Maybe: 2. c: Lack of Presence / Impact / Confidence?
Seen here:
...because he couldn't find a parking space
...because he's trying to change lanes and he can't because the cars won't give him a gap
Seen elsewhere:
- watching him interjecting into a group convo and getting ignored
- backing down from a light dinner conversation
- can't get the bartenders attention to close out his tab
So is the ick permanent or temporary? I always thought that a sudden drop in attraction was a natural milestone for every new relationship that you can choose to end the relationship over or ride it out, and that if you ride it out attraction will return in time. (What Carrie Fisher referred to as The Sleeping Giant, the one who wakes up a few weeks or months into the relationship and starts picking apart everything your new love does or wears or says.)
One of my icks was my ex guttural yelling at a concert during mostly silent moments between songs; I felt it was attention-seeking and disruptive rather than a genuine expression of excitement. Wonder if that falls into the neoteny category?
Reading the sentence “I'm terrified by the notion that I could be liked by people and get further in life if I put in an absurd amount of effort into changing my habits,” gave me ick 😂
My husband didn't have any motor skills flaws. But I did! And now our son has them... he's autistic. It sucks that he'll be giving girls the ick but on the other hand he probably *shouldn't* have kids. I guess it's just evolutionary biology in action. We like to think humans are above that but we're not.
For me, “getting the ick” gives me the ick. People who silently judge and rank people based on tiny human foibles while not realizing they themselves are ALSO human and have foibles and bad breath and probably a disgusting/disconcerting habit or two. But do I sit and stew and report them online to the judgy bitch police to feel better about myself, superior to the obvious icko? No. Because I’m a goddamned adult. Not a mean girl from the 2000s.
Proactiveness, taking responsibility, thoughtfulness, cleanliness (at least not rotmaxxing, the bar is in hell nowadays).. this isn't just the ability to be kind or "a heckin decent human being." It's something only a select few people are consciously aware of that care about this. The rest are shallow women that have convinced themselves never to have confidence while ironically acting as if their life revolves around girlbossing instead of natural evolutionary impulses.
Leftwing psychology never fails to amaze me. "Follow evolutionary theory, oh but wait, also, ignore that! It's all a construct!"
Just choose a lane and choose something to believe in.. just commit to something! This is why many marriages fall apart, they don't actually love each other nor have the will to commit.